Another amazing Brene Brown Ted Talk. Watch this video. The gift of the knowledge she shares will be worth every minute of your time!
It has been said that Winston Churchill was fond of referring to his recurrent battle with depression as “the black dog coming to visit.” This video expands on that metaphor with a great message.
Listening to the Koln Concert ~ by Robert Bly
” After we had loved each other intently,
we heard notes tumble together,
in late winter, and we heard ice
falling from the ends of twigs.
The notes abandon so much as they move.
They are the food not eaten, the comfort
not taken, the lies not spoken.
The music is my attention to you.
And when the music came again,
late in the day, I saw tears in your eyes.
I saw you turn your face away
So that others would not see.
When men and women come together,
how much they have to abandon. Wrens
make their nests of fancy threads
and string ends, animals
abandon all their money each year.
What is it that men and women leave?
Harder than wren’s doing, they have
to abandon their longing for the perfect.
The inner nest not made by instinct
will never be quite round,
and each has to enter the nest
made by the other imperfect bird. “
Want to send a message of You’re Still the One….this is such a sweet video, evocative of love and connection….sending the message of let’s start over. Come on, life, relationships…never perfect…..start over…breathe and be in love.
Reading a quality relationship self-help book with your partner can be one helpful avenue to take as a way to enhance the process of professional therapy. Research tells us that couples who choose to read Hold me Tight while they are in therapy show slightly better outcomes.
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A wonderful blog post on handsfreemama exemplifies the simple, wordless act of being authentically there for another suffering human being without words. http://www.handsfreemama.com/2012/08/21/loving-a-child-through-the-challenges-of-life/