Strengths and Virtues

Working to understand each others signature strengths and virtues is a tool I use to help couples appreciate and know each other better. Watch this video to understand the value of this knowledge and cutting edge new psychology.
“What are your strengths…..you have super powers and focusing on your strengths and those of others helps you make a better version of yourself…….Pause and ask yourself: Does what I am about to do accurately reflect who I am and what and who I want to be?”

“The Other Imperfect Bird”

Flying birdsA friend shared this lovely poem that speaks to  the importance  of recognizing the imperfection that lives in every relationship.

Listening to the Koln Concert ~ by Robert Bly

” After we had loved each other intently,
we heard notes tumble together,
in late winter, and we heard ice
falling from the ends of twigs.

The notes abandon so much as they move.
They are the food not eaten, the comfort
not taken, the lies not spoken.
The music is my attention to you.

And when the music came again,
late in the day, I saw tears in your eyes.
I saw you turn your face away
So that others would not see.

When men and women come together,
how much they have to abandon. Wrens
make their nests of fancy threads
and string ends, animals

abandon all their money each year.
What is it that men and women leave?
Harder than wren’s doing, they have
to abandon their longing for the perfect.

The inner nest not made by instinct
will never be quite round,
and each has to enter the nest

made by the other imperfect bird. “