Maya Angelou said this about growing older:

In April, Maya Angelou was interviewed by Oprah on her 70+ birthday.. Oprah asked her what she thought of growing older. And, there on television, she said it was ‘exciting…’ Regarding body changes, she said there were many, occurring everyday… her breasts. They seem to be in a race to see which will reach her waist, first.

The audience laughed so hard they cried. She is such a simple and honest woman, with so much wisdom in her words!

‘I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.’

‘I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.’

‘I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.’

‘I’ve learned that making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as ‘making a life.’

‘I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.’

‘I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back…’

‘I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.’

‘I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.’

‘I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug or just a friendly pat on the back…’

‘I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn.’

‘I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.’

On Attachment Theory

“A society which values it’s children must cherish their parents.” John Bowlby

Below is a link to a wonderful video on the history of attachment theory and it’s applications to psychotherapy:

For a child or an adult, knowing that one is lovingly and securely held in the mind and heart of another stokes the fires of the soul.

EFT Couples Workshops are Wonderful

In addition to her book  Hold Me Tight® (, Dr. Susan Johnson has also developed a Hold Me Tight®–7 Conversations for a Life-time if Love protocol for couples education workshops.

We are pleased to announce that Couples Therapy Spokane has plans in process to offer an EFT based Couples Retreat on Lake Coeur d’ Alene in the spring  of 2016.  Additionally, we will begin offering EFT Couples Small Group workshops (limited to 2 to 4 couples) in  May of  2015.  So, please contact us by email or leave me a phone message if you are interested in more information about attending a Hold Me Tight® EFT group class, an EFT retreat, or if you would like for us to arrange such a program for your business, church, or organization. I will add you to  my contact list only for this purpose.  (509) 838-5661

What if YOU could have the Best Relationship in your Social Circle?

Is your relationship suitcase on the verge of exploding when you and your spouse venture out in public?  Is it possible to “keep up  appearances” so that no one really knows the two of you are secretly miserable, fighting all the time or contemplating separation?

No, it’s not possible!  Don’t be fooled.  It’s human nature to sense when things are not OK when witnessing others interact.  Although some people are not clever enough to sniff out the trouble that lurks beneath the surface waters of your relationship, most of your close friends and family; all those who truly love and care about your well-being can see your blind spots clearly.   The clues are perceptible in the blink of an eye;  in your body-language, and facial expressions.  Keeping yourselves from slipping up at an in-opportune time and spilling the secret is like perfecting a high-wire act in a thunderstorm.  Most importantly, it’s painful and  the emotional trauma one endures secretly when stuffing strong emotions is destructive to physical and emotional health over time.  Not to mention if you have children it sends a parenting message that false facades and hiding  emotions is acceptable even in your most important and primary love relationships. AKA, bad parenting by example.

So what is keeping you from getting help?

What if, as a society we spent more time being proud of how hard it is to have a good marriage?  What if it was more socially acceptable to outwardly and publicly admit that you want to be happier in your marriage and you are working on it…… the same way you work to get ahead in your profession, in the same way you expect your children to work at school.  What if you could look across the room, catch your partners eye and have that feeling that you are the luckiest person on the earth? What if you could set a loving and powerful example of how to find happiness together again for the other couples you know are also struggling?  

What if YOU and your partner had the most amazing relationship in your social circle?